What I Want...

Here's a less gender bias viewpoint, in continuance to my previous posting of 'A Woman's Worth'.

WHAT I WANT...
Please don't tiptoe around my feelings - I've already chased my own demons and conquered them or I wouldn't be here with you.

Patience - don't push for a commitment I'm either unwilling to give or can't give to you at this point in time If I don't feel I've lived my own life - I can't be expected to share it with another until I'm ready.I am not here to make you happy - if you're depending on me for your happiness, this relationship is doomed to fail. It's not my responsibility to make you feel anything - your feelings and emotions are solely your own. I will, however, be glad if you "feel" happy in my company. As I feel in yours.

Be honest with me - my life has already been so full of negatives that I appreciate the positives - and honesty is one of them. Allow me to be your friend - don't shut me out when trouble comes your way. I have a mind and ideas that may be useful - let me try to help.

Be MY friend - listen to what I say - give me some feedback to show you're listening to me - hug me when I'm down - kiss me when I hurt - hold me when I cry; be there holding my hand if I'm silent. It's sometimes just enough to know you care - and I'll do the same for you.We're here together through a mutual attraction - we have common interests and goals - and have probably been through great emotional upheaval in our lives.

DON'T compare me to the past; it will only hurt you in the long run when you turn around and I'm gone. I have no time for living in the past - I only want to live each day and move forward. That doesn't mean we can't discuss it - it simply means we won't *live* in it. I can't allow that for myself; and I hope you won't allow it for yourself and the sake of our relationship; wherever it may lead.

DON'T be afraid of us and what we may be feeling- recognize the fact that we like each other's company. Don't start analyzing, or the relationship will end before it begins. You deserve some happiness: don't sell yourself or me short by denying yourself. We may or may not end up in a total commitment - but it's a start to somewhere. And a pleasant way to spend time waiting. All in all, it should be a great relationship if we can lean on each other when we need to - share the fun times and sad times, and keep the lines of communication flowing honestly. I know I haven't thought of everything, but if we have just these few attributes - the rest will come easily and we can conquer any negatives that life may toss our way.

Finally, my friend, if it ends - don't look back with regret. I won't - I feel my life has already been enriched by your presence in it and will continue to be *because* of it. Concentrate on the good times we had - and think of me as your friend still. I'll be around because I care about you - and I'll be happy for you when you find that special someone you've been searching for as I hope you will for me.

Sandee Eveland 1996 (http://pages.prodigy.net/winemaker01/desires.html)

Can't help but notice my posting has created quite a ripple. Thanks for your comments people. I've always believed that a relationship is between the two people involved...the world might not understand or see the magic that's conjured...the sparks that ignite...but then again the world decides, the world always decides...