Comparing

I compare. You compare. We all compare. It’s part of our nature. It’s a matter of whether we make it public or keep it hidden in the confines of our hearts. Yes, we might tell ourselves we shouldn’t but comparing thoughts are inevitable, unavoidable and we can’t help but discriminate in instances. To a certain extent, it’s almost natural to compare. Let’s talk in the context of love and relationships.

FACQs - Example of Frequently Asked Comparing Questions

- Who is a better kisser?
- Who is better looking?
- Who is better in bed?
- Who is better in football?
- Who is a better dancer?
- Who treats you better?
- Who is better in keeping their promises?
- Who buys more gifts for you?
- Who showers more love on you?
- Who has more muscles?
- Who gives you more attention?
- Who understand you more?
- Who gives you more space?
- Who has a bigger d**k?
- Who has bigger b**bs?
- Who has a bigger bank account?
- Who has a bigger house?
- Who has a bigger heart?

From a simple point of view, added with some straight shallow thinking, the bigger, the more, the better right? We do want what's best for us after all. The selfish and greedy gene comes to play every so often. It is when we accept the flaws and imperfections and learn to love someone for who...how...and what they really are...that we learn to love with no maybes.

All of a sudden I'm thinking of Jack Nicholson in As Good As It Gets when he said "You make me wanna be a better man..." to Helen Hunt's character. That has gotta be one of the less mushy love lines ever used yet it is so effective. It carries such a welcomed weight on the one who's saying it and to the one who it is expressed to, it means so much knowing that they're an inspiration to change for the better. A reason to change.

If we could, how many of us would like to order that perfect love specimen? With all of the above that suit our requirements, tailor made, and packaged completely in one person just for us and us alone...gift wrapped with a big red ribbon (purple for me!) and addressed to us, to have and to hold. I would...but would that be the real thing?