Baby Talk
Years ago, I made a decision - I do not want to have children if and when I get married. No, it is not because I am worried about gaining the pounds. Althought there is a tinge of phobia, but that's manageable for there's always Marie France. Let's just say that I want my honeymoon period to last...for a long time to come.
The world will be our Oyster...
Call me selfish but once a child comes into your life, your entire world changes. Life and every aspect of it will be customised to suit a child's need and it won't be as flexible as before. However, don't get me wrong.The union of genes, the creation of a new being from two people in love is indeed beautiful and joyful. To some, a marriage is incomplete without a baby. I respect this view and I am asking, not telling anyone to in return, respect mine too. Why? Because my choice has caused uneasiness and someone felt offended. Maybe she misinterpreted but anyhow I would like to make things clear. There is a difference between asking and telling. When you ask, you want and expect a positive reaction. When you tell, there is no expectation of any reaction whatsoever. Therefore I am 'asking' in this sense. Respect MY views which are meant solely for my use and application as I respect yours and we will be better off.
Enough said. Full stop.
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Continuing on the same topic however, the words of someone a few days back in the midst of a heated discussion made me stop and pause for a moment.
"Maybe you will want to have children when you have everything and feel fulfilled with life..."
He certainly got me thinking there and I have come to a realisation that perhaps I will change my mind when I reach a state of contentment in my life. Right now I admit, I don't feel whole. There are many things that I want to do in this lifetime and I will strive to turn these dreams into reality. Becoming a mother is simply, just not included in the list. Perhaps I might long for the pitter patter of tiny feet in a future where I have achieved life satisfaction and hold everything my heart desires. Where I feel I am not constantly at war with myself and with the demons within, where I am at ease....peaceful...tranquil...calm...for I will not bring a child into this world if I can't give my all for no child deserves to be raised halfheartedly.
Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps...
It's a possibility. Never say never right? For those who do, ever so often end up swallowing their own words instead.
Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps...
It's a possibility. Never say never right? For those who do, ever so often end up swallowing their own words instead.
posted by Perfectly Flawed® at 6:33 pm
8 Comments:
Few years back, I hated kids & I thought I didn't want any. But not until I had a dream of myself giving birth.It is the most wonderful dream and the feeling is just so satisfying, I've never felt that fulfilled before. Eversince then, I started liking kids and they like me in return! Its all about sharing the love we have within ourselves :)
Dreams can seem so real sometimes huh? Had a dream once where my mom passed away. Woke up with a soaked pillow of tears and I just hugged her the very moment I saw her the morning after.
Well, once again as I always say...every little thing only time will tell. And time will tell if I ever do want kids :)
Thanks for your thoughts.
... and one day we might all see PF turns to her kid and say, "Mommy loves you like a fat kid loves cake."
:D
Darn you woman :P
ya rite... never say never... time will tell... i didn't like to ve kids coz i felt that being human is a suffering thing to do.. therefore, would not like to produce another being... fortunately or unfortunately, i ll ve my own baby very, very soon... ;) never say never
Yup, never say never.
Congrats to you on your soon to be bundle of joy :) Take care of you and baby.
Althuogh it's not my business to give birth, but I still don't like kids. Simply because of the commitment I need to give after that. No, not now, not in the near future either.
A guy's POV. Hhmm...same thoughts as I have :). *kamching*
Would be swell if men could give birth. Like Arnold in the movie 9 months. A deal can be striked with my husband and I. I woman - one, you man - one. *chuckle*
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