Playing Judge

It irks me when people play the judging game. It simply irks me because these are the ones who have no business whatsoever in doing so.

The mechanics of our relationships changes as life passes by. With our partner, with our family, with our friends. Friends grow apart, lovers go astray. People will come and go, whereas some will stay for the long haul. This is just the way of life. And life is a journey. A journey of discovering who we are, who we want to be and where we want to be. Until the three seamlessly merge, there will be shifts in our focus inevitably. Our priorities will change every now and then. For good, for bad, happy or sad.

Sometimes, we have to see and acknowledge this fact not only for ourselves but for others as well. The word here is empathy. I'm not even talking in a sympathetic sense. But that we should at least, spare an ounce of consideration and respect for one another. After all, aren't we breathing the same air? Don't we go through similar phases in life? Aren't we all learning from our mistakes as we go along? At the end of the day, isn't our lives ours to live?

I hold no grudges. I honestly don't. Because people can be blatantly ignorant and clueless to the big picture of a situation. I will place no blame or discrimination onto them. We're only human and we have our flaws. I understand. Sincerely I do. I can and will sweep it under the rug. But there's no denying that it affects me, when it shouldn't. This is why I prefer to keep my emotions private and sit beside myself when it boils down to certain things as more often than not, some people fail to realise the picture painted by their canvas of words.

And this picture is that we often hold people to a standard that we ourselves don’t keep.

A friend once said to me, “I may not understand what you’re doing. I may not agree but I am here for you, for that’s what friends are for”.

Through thick or thin, right or wrong. The world could certainly do with more bosom souls like hers. But who am I to ask for more? For I'm the one standing trial here.